Disclaimer: Of Course it's controversial... that's why it's here!
I don't know any men who subscribe to the theory of Soul Mates-- i.e. the idea that there is only one true love match, in all the world, for each individual. But soul mates certainly dominate the thoughts of women and the concept seems to be almost universally accepted by them. If you thumb through a romance novel you can't help but be bludgeoned about the head by soul mates, as not only an accepted concept, but one that is utterly, fervently, and blindly insisted upon by women.
Most men instantly recognise the idea of Soul Mates for what it is: A very large load of horse poo. (Which doesn't necessarily mean that some men may not push the soul mate horse hocky for reasons which support their own agenda.) So, why is it so difficult for women to ditch the idea and move on to a more realistic vision of romance? Because it's what they WANT to believe, of course. If you want something to be true enough (not so very different from the case of religious fanatics) you can ignore a lot of reality which points to its non-existence.
Since guys who are in a relationship usually realize (if their IQ is larger than their shoe size) they must pretend to go along with many feminine foibles if they expect to keep the peace. Naturally, that tends to foster the idea among women of universal acceptance of the fallacious concept of soul mates. If NO ONE tells them it is nonsense, how are they gonna know?
If you take a close look at the idea of soul mates it's pretty obvious why it could not be true. All it takes is a little logic and a bit of statistical thinking. For example, if there were only one person of the opposite sex in, all the world, who was your perfect match for romance: WHAT ARE THE CHANCES YOU'D EVER ENCOUNTER THEM? Statistically speaking, probably less than that of lightning vaporizing both of you simultaneously. For the mathematically challenged, that translates to virtually non-existent. Which means, that even if there were something to the idea of soul mates, you would almost certainly never encounter them in your lifetime. And, if by some miracle you did encounter them, who's to say there wouldn't be so much age disparity a relationship would never work... or they might already even be dead.
I can already hear protests from those who would also like to believe that placement of people for soul mate encounters is divinely programmed. Puh- lease. So you are telling me the football jock from your local high school that you married was divinely arranged to be in the same town with you... even though after ten years of marriage you'll have to admit you really have very little in common. There's a Soul Mate. Or maybe it's the really exciting, and slightly more compatible, guy from the next town over you think might REALLY be your soul mate if both of you could dump your current spouses and start over together... Oh yeah, that's gonna work too.
So, you might ask, what's the harm in millions of women believing in soul mates... even if it is a lot of crap? Because, if you are concentrating on and expecting 'perfection' (which to most women translates to a guy with a muscular bod who agrees with her on everything) you may never notice a guy that has such stupid irritating ideas that you'd never even CONSIDER a relationship with him. Even though he might turn out to be-- certainly not a soul mate-- but a better match than you might find relying on a concept that is a complete fallacy and farce.
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